Have any of you fairer sex any tales to tell in
> this area?

I have been with my Chinese "boyfriend" for abt 2 years. There are some of the same problems, but since we don't live in a small village, we don't have really SERIOUS problems.

I mean there is the usual staring & pointing. (but that happens when I am alone) He has been asked several times if he is my translater. His family still calls me "teacher", as if its not necessary for me to have a name because that would somehow be admitting I am actually involved in a serious relationship with their son. There have been comments about possible problems in the bedroom since he is shorter then me. HA HA HA! Many of his friends have warned him of how sex-crazed us foreign women are & how we want it all the time. HA HA! Someone even said if we had a child together it wouldnt be healthy because of the mixed race.

BUT for the most part we are accepted. People in this city in China do seem to be judgemental, but they do get past any bad first impressions rather quickly when they get to know you. At least the people that dont approve, mostly talk about it behind our backs. And many people "say" good things about it too.

I would have to say most of the problems we face are between us. Our own hang ups/concerns, previous bad experiences in relationships. But I guess that would be the same in the US, or anywhere. Communicating with regards to personal feelings can be tricky, because now you have to state exactly what you are thinking. It can get pretty embarrassing at times, but if you love each other you can handle that.

I can't comment on if it will last forever, or develop into marriage or anything, but taking it one day at a time, as you would in any relationship.

> I can't speak for SK or Japan, but I do think you are overstating the
> case quite considerably.

> I *do* ackowledge that there are some problems (on the Chinese side
> mainly) when dating or having a relationship, but I or my Chinese gf
> of two years have never had any of the serious problems as you
> describe.

> Yes, there are some (mainly older) Chinese who disaprove, but I have
> know a fair few lao wai have relations and none of these have had any
> serious impediment.

> I did once have an old Chinese come up to my girlfriend and tell her
> that unless she was going to marry me then she shouldn't be holding
> my hand (!), but usually the locals (especially city folk) don't have
> any big problems.
> I am not saying that 100% are okay with it mind!!!

> As an aside, all these relations have been with a male foreigner and
> a female Chinese. Have any of you fairer sex any tales to tell in
> this area?