You said you "were" reluctant to go, does this mean you no longer are, or are already there? That's what your grammar and word usage points to anyhow. If you have not gone, don't go, and do be reluctant. If they were really going to give your hubby a job I think they would have offered right away. They sound no different than the liars and scam artists in China, who will tell you anything to get you to go there. If I were you I certainly would not go, they can promise anything, but I am pretty sure circumstance will have changed as soon as you set foot on their countries soil. By then you'll have already committed, and they know the odds of you turning around and going home a low. All they need do is give you same half baked excuse about how something happened, or there is no longer a job. What will you do then, pay to go right back home after spending so much money to get there. If you do, so what, it costs them nothing, but costs you a fortune. I would advise you in no way to go there, you are trying to convince yourself it will be OK, because of assurances they are now giving you, but it almost surely will not. I hope I am wrong, but you'd be best off to be safe, not sorry.