Once again, that Cupid person is about to strut his stuff and like a miser with a 10 dollar bill, I bet you any amount of money, He will unerringly miss you and I! Does he ever fail to deliver.. I mean NOT Deliver?

What I can’t figure out is what does this mean? Someone must think we are strong and independent and don’t need a great guy to take us out and whisper sweet “ANYTHING PLEASE” to us? Aren’t we lovable enough? I am SURE we are.. No, STOP! I don’t want to hear why you aren’t. Don’t go down that road ok, or the tears will start to splash and my mascara run. Of course you are fine. My dog thinks I am pretty ok too, and he is a great judge of character, (ok he lets anyone in with food, but so would I, wouldn’t you?).. smile.

I figure if I am good enough for the dog, he is leaps ahead of some of the men I have dated, so by that reasoning I must be ok, right?

Anyway, really, what do you need with someone else when you have yourself? Isn’t that what the ‘experts’ tell you? Learn to love yourself. If you don’t, who will?

Well I don’t know about you but I can convince myself for a few minutes anyway that I am reasonably attractive, presumably intelligent, can still see my feet and have a great sense of humour. I mean who wouldn’t want to go out with me. I just can’t understand how they think they can get better than this?

Well unfortunately yes I do.

I am sure that we both know how easy it is to make up all sorts of excuses why no one should like us, wouldn’t like us, or couldn’t possibly like us, but they would be very lies and wrong. They would be the kind of punch that hits the jugular straight on and why would either of us want to hurt ourselves so bad that we go there?

I know that there is nothing wrong with me except bad judgement in dinner dates.Period! No one can make us feel bad except ourselves. We are responsible for our singleton status aren’t we? Can you buy that? Know what I think?..smile.

I think the time has come to erase the message to ourselves that no one loves us and we aren’t worthy. I know that this message has been hanging around both our yards for way too long now but it does no one any good to perpetuate it any longer. All it does is make us feel bad. SO, In honour of St Valentines Day today, I am taking MYSELF off the List of NO LOVE and making MYSELF my very own Valentine.

I promise to love me and treat me with the kindness and respect I deserve. I know that I would never accept the type of abuse from anyone else that I give to myself. Why should I accept it from me? Why should you?

If you are single and feeling like Love will never come your way then please stand up right now and realize, that love is a part of you everyday. Love is the way you wear your comfy pj’s. Love is the coffee you made yourself this morning. Love is that pretty bracelet you put on today and love is the way you made yourself get up and go to work. Love is the home you made for yourself, love is the friends you nurture and love is the family you keep in touch with. Love is brushing your teeth, combing your hair and reading a great book.

Love is saying one nice thing to yourself today and tomorrow, and the next day. Love is not worrying about whether you will ever find a mate.

LOVE is looking after you and making sure you live your life to the fullest enjoyment possible, and that means whether or not a man is part of it or not. It means being ready and able to accept love when it knocks at your door but for today, Love means taking yourself out on a Special Valentines Date. Today I love you and I love me. “Waiter, a Table for One Please!”

At the critical juncture

of all human relationships, There is only ONE question, " What would love do now?".. No other question has any relevance to your soul. Hear someone (* YOURSELF) at heart level today.. frankie picasso

Frankie is a dynamic Guerilla Life Coach who specializes in the impossible. She leads, trains, supports, motivates and inspires individuals and teams to produce exceptional results in their lives. Frankie will soon be the host of the new radio Show called CyberFate, Finding Love Online. Visit coachpicassoATsympatico.ca