At the present time in this world, the majority of people are being negative. Even if it is not in their will and they don't want to be like that, in the end their negative side unfortunately tends to control their mind and eventually them. Peoples minds are made to ask important or unimportant questions all the time. That is how the mind is designed. We can either see it as a negative thing or a very PRECIOUS OPPORTUNITY. Through controlling and changing the questions we make, we can so CHANGE OUR LIVES. Everything in the world can be changed and so we can also change the questions we ask ourselves all the time through these simple steps.

1. Realize that problem... REALIZATION is the most important thing for making positive changes to anything, the stronger the realization it will be easier to fix any problem because of our strong will, in this case the negative questions in our minds. We can't fix something we don't know. We should first realize that we are using the negative questions all the time which in the end give us nothing but negative things. Just like other problems, we have to realize that we have them to eventually start fixing it.

2. Accept it... Yes, it can be hard sometimes, why would we accept something negative on ourselves. It doesn't make sense to some people, but we can't start fixing something if we don't believe it nor accepted it. But as hard it seems it is, in the end it will be more beneficial after we accept the facts, because only than we can start to change it. After we realize that we have it, we must FULLY ACCEPT that it is an part of us which has to be changed. Denying it will not fix it. But when we accept that fact that we keep asking negative questions which lead to negative consequences in our lives we can than start to change it.

3. Start right away... There is NO TIME TO WASTE, the time is too precious to just wait until something happens on its own.Nothing will happen automatically by itself, it is only us who can start it and eventually make a positive change. After accepting it, we can again ask ourselves negative questions such as "Why do I have this problem" or we can try asking positive questions like "What do I have to do to fix it".

4. Make positive questions pop out by itself, make it a habit... Just like the negative questions used to come, DON'T GIVE UP until positive questions come out unconsciously. By that result we will feel how we stopped thinking negatively and that instead of asking why questions, we ask "how to improve" or "how to fix that problem" questions.

Negative questions:

Who did this?; When did this happen?; Why is it happening to me?

Positive questions:

How can I fix this?; What actions do I have to take to make it right?

It is pretty easy to recognize what type of questions we are letting out of our heads. We get no benefit from the negative ones and they are waste of time, where the positive questions are the questions of PURE POSITIVE ACTION.

Next time you encounter a problem, don't start asking yourself negative questions which lead to anger, worry and hatred, but positive ones which can instantly give you actions to fix that problem and put you back to the road to success.

My name is HyunSoung Kim. When I grow up I will be an positive psychologist who helps people choose the positive road. If you have any problems or questions about your life, future and frustrations please feel free to ask me by sending a e-mail to kim_h_soung(at)hotmail.com, it is always my first priority to fully help others.