I read your post about your experience with a Chinese lady and was absolutely amazed. I too met a Chinese woman 9 years younger than me on a dating site. She is 41 but looks much younger. In my case, I was not able to immediately travel to China due to my workload. She asked is she could come visit me and flew to into LA with her own money and apparently had a business visa. 3 weeks was like heaven although she didnt show much emotion that a woman in love would. She would say things like, I love you darling etc. but there was something lacking. We vowed to get married and she consistantly told me about her desire to have a child or children.
While she was here and using her own computer ( everything was Chinese ) I noticed that she was on her e-mail and I could read OKCupid on some of her messages. I never really thought much of this as I did not even know that it was a dating site. After she left, I got suspicious and posted a assumed profile on the same site, without a photo. I sent her a message asking her if she was still looking for her soul mate. Bingo ! she responded and said yes I am. I confronted her on video conference, she looked shocked but showed little emotion, apologized and said she would not do it again and that this was a mistake. After this incident I found her on several other sites and could clearly see that she was logging on and even refreshing her profile. Once again when I confronted her, instead of admitting or showing any sign of remorse, she accused me of being " a bad man " for not trusting her and why I was spending time checking on her instead of doing something useful.
I guess I am lucky to find out about all this before going to China and visiting her in Xiamen in early 2011.

I think there is no limit to their greed even if they are fortunate enough to find good men like us and have the opportunity to live in the US. Maybe love is a word that they are taught when they learn English.

Sincerely,

Savash