It’s a New Year. What do you want more of for yourself? For many of us, time and money are some things that come immediately to mind. Will you get it? The answer is more likely to be ‘yes’, if you start actually asking for it.

Asking for more-of anything-isn’t impolite, it’s essential. When you aren’t given enough (resources, time, support, cooperation, money, etc.), you need to ask for more. When you settle for less than, when you work with less than, when you sacrifice yourself or your family for less than, you are harming your Authentic Self and depleting your self-esteem.

So, you need to ask for more.

“More” is yours to take! It’s lingering out in the universe for you to reach out and grab by its vast shirttails. “More” is waiting for your words to reach it so it can swoop down from above, right into your own life.

So, what’s stopping you? Here are a few common stopping points and their antidotes:

Stopping Point #1: I ask for more and the powers-that-be say “no.”
Antidote: First, make sure you are asking the right person. Sometimes you are asking someone who can’t actually get you your more. Next, if you have truly asked the correct person and they turned you down, consider moving on…to another job, other relationship, etc. Yes, this may sound harsh but if the people you depend on (for work, support, childcare, etc.) cannot help you get the more that your Authentic Self needs, they likely aren’t good enough for you.

Stopping Point #2: “I don’t deserve (fill in the blank) because I am ________.”
Antidote: Time to call in the (support team) troops! You need a good hot soaking in all of your fabulous qualities, skills, talents and passions and your support team is just the crew to do it. Share with them your “more”. Now, watch the magic unfold as they turn the, “I don’t deserve…”into “I do deserve…” by reminding you of your fabulousness. The presence of a support team in your life is one of your most precious assets.

Stopping Point #3: I’m scared.
Antidote: Ask your Authentic Self what it is that she really fears will happen once she asks for her more. Is it the fact that she knows she deserves better but has settled for less than for years? Or, is it the possibility that she might be turned down? Wherever the fear is based doesn’t matter as much as how you act with it. Action helps to eliminate fear. As soon as you act, the fear is immediately lessened or goes away completely.

As soon as you ask for more, you catapult your Authentic Self into action! By asking for more, you show the world what is important to you by your words and your actions. When you accept less, you are telling the world that you aren’t that important; that you don’t deserve anything better; that yours or your family’s needs aren’t very critical.

So, are you going to do it? I hope so. Grab your more out of its stationary place in the sky and invite it into your life! You’ll be glad that you did. Do you have an “asking for more” success story to share? Tell me about it. Or, are you still stuck? Let me know. I want to help you get your more.

Elizabeth M. Johnson
http://www.ejohnsonandcompany.com