When you are around a group of people, do you hold back from saying anything because you’re afraid no one will listen? Or worse yet, are you afraid that someone else is going to interrupt and bump you right out of the conversation? Do you feel that if only you knew how to talk so people will listen, you wouldn’t feel like such a loner?

Loner Personality

Everyone is chatting away, laughing and having a good 'ol time. All except for you, that is. You feel detached, almost like you’re not even there, estranged from everyone else in the room. Such an inferior feeling of self-worth can be very distressing.

Overcoming Inferiority Complex

It is hard for you to relate to other people or make friends because you don’t have a grip on who you are. You feel ignored and unwelcome and that nobody really wants to listen to anything you have to say. As much as you would like their attention, you don’t feel worthy of getting it. So now, you not only have no friends, but an inferiority complex as well. Being alone has a huge affect on how you think about yourself, your world and your future.

These feelings of loneliness suggest a longing for something that you seem to be missing. The feelings linked to loneliness have a tendency to nurture themselves. The more lonely you feel, the harder it is to get rid of these feelings of aloneness. With a little effort and commitment, you can begin to move out of feeling lonely to an empowered and confident life.

Actions to Take on How to Become Confident

Build your self-esteem
Improve your conversational skills
Get involved in something new
Smile and acknowledge others
Change your body language
Decide on who you are and the kind of person you want to be
Do some serious soul searching
Determine what you want to accomplish with your life

There are many, many resources available to help you learn how to become confident. Attend workshops or adult educational classes on how to be assertive. This will seem hard at first, but remember you are just one of many others who are also looking to enrich their lives. Very soon you will begin to feel worthy and excited about your life.

Importance of Self Esteem

The primary reason for feelings of aloneness is a lack of self-esteem. You will need to directly work on this problem. There are exercises you can do on your own. Make a list of the things you like most about yourself and tape it to your mirror. Keep a journal and write down your accomplishments at the end of each day. While praising yourself may feel uncomfortable, after a period of time you will be amazed at just what a great person you really are.

Body Language Techniques

Have you ever noticed a person who is confident and secure moves with a buoyancy and surety. They stand up tall, look you square in the eye and speak clearly. How you appear to others is influenced largely by your body language techniques. If you feel small and insignificant around other people, more than likely your body language will support this. Change your body language techniques. People will respond to you in the way you present yourself to them.

Decide on who you are and what kind of person you want to be so you have something to connect with. Once you do some soul searching, you will be discover just what it is that you want to achieve in life. And then you can begin your journey down the path to a whole new life. You will intuitively know how to talk so people will listen.

Marguerite Pickett
http://www.myselfawareness.com/