One way people ruin their chances for happiness is by holding on to resentments, anger, and rage. When you’ve been wronged, it’s natural to feel upset, and anger can be useful, at least for a while. Anger helps you defend yourself when attacked because it revs up your body to right a wrong.

However, anger that’s held for too long begins to poison your body and soul. Chronic anger leads to high blood pressure, emotional disturbance, and a decrease in common sense. Thus, when you’re angry, you simply can’t be happy.

But ridding yourself of chronic anger isn’t an especially easy task. You must do something that feels rather counterintuitive: Somehow find forgiveness for those who have wronged you.

There may be certain wrongs that you probably can’t realistically forgive. For example, you may find yourself unable to forgive acts of severe violence or abuse. In that case, an alternative approach is to let go of the anger and rage by finding acceptance. What helps is writing things down, taking it off your mind and onto paper. Write down your bad experience and then think of yourself as a forgiving person, not a victim. Describe how your different when you learn to let go of your anger and forgive.

Forgiving isn’t the same as saying that the wrong was okay. Forgiveness gives back the peace that you had before the event occurred. And letting go of your anger allows you to regain your previous happiness.

Marleny Anicama
http://www.healing.toppayingideas.com/