How to Raise Self-Esteem in Others

Is there somebody in your life that you would like to help by raising their self-esteem? A teenager? Your husband or wife? A friend? Helping them to raise their self-esteem is the greatest gift you can give them.

The way in which you can help others to raise their self-esteem is the same way in which I as a self-esteem coach use to raise the self-esteem of my clients. I don’t mean that you have to learn to ask coaching questions like I do to help my clients understand themselves better and find their own answers. What I mean is that by adopting the same attitude towards the person whose self-esteem you want to raise as a coach has towards her client you can help the person to change his/her view of him/herself.

1.Respect. Respect the other for the unique person he or she is. When you show that this person is worth being respectful towards, the person will start to respect him/herself more as well.
2.Don’t judge. When you truly respect somebody you don’t judge his/her actions, thoughts or emotions. This person probably have very good reasons for making the choices that he/she does – reasons that you cannot know anything about. Each person does his/her best at any moment in time, and each person is the best expert on his/her life. Your judgment of what the other person should do is not based on as much information as he/she has herself.
3.See the person. Really aim to see and understand the person. Show that you care and that you are interested. Listen actively! Don’t just pretend like you’re listening – genuinely try to understand the person as well as you possibly can. By showing the other person that he/she is interesting and important, he/she will also eventually adopt the same view of him/herself.
4.Set your own boundaries. If the other person treats you in a way that you consider unacceptable or hurting you have to be firm on telling the person that you don’t accept that kind of treatment. If the person tells you an inappropriate comment, tell him/her that “That comment hurt me. I don’t accept that kind treatment.” (Before you can do this you of course have to decide what your personal boundaries are! This might take some self-exploration on your part.) When you communicate your own personal boundaries and refuse to accept mistreatment you set a good example for the other person to do the same for him/herself. Having strong personal boundaries shows that you consider yourself valuable enough to not be walked over by others.
5.Believe in their ability. Genuinely believe in the other person’s potential to grow and achieve whatever they want to achieve in life. If you don’t yet genuinely believe that the other person has this ability, work on your own attitude until you can honestly say that you believe in the other person’s own potential. When you believe that the other person has all the resources he/she needs within, your body language will communicate this to the other person, and the person will eventually start to believe in him/herself.
If you want further advice on how raise other’s self-esteem, feel free to contact me at coach(at)livmiyagawa.com or visit www.livmiyagawa.com

Liv Miyagawa, The Self-Esteem Coach, helps people all over the world to raise their self-esteem and to reach their personal goals. She opens people’s eyes to their own strengths and helps them to figure out what it really is that they want to get out of life. Liv helps people to find out exactly what steps they need to take to reach their goals, and she supports them and motivates them on their journey towards a more fulfilling future. www.livmiyagawa.com