There is a whole publishing industry (mags for lads) that encourage men to be assertive and not to be conned. Any guy who's "been around" can identify the gold-digging women. Some rich men don't mind either. It's their choice, their lifestyle. They can have a "trophy wife" to put on display or in the worst cases attend a United Nations meeting. I'm curious as to where these generalizations come from, " a lot of men". How do you know this?

The issue remains, however, of appropriateness, as other posters have also noticed. I am not in the least interested where Silverboy proposes to park his penis in the Philippines provided what he is doing is not illegal. I'm not a prude or part of some moral majority. There are specialist websites I'm sure for sex tourists and where they can publish their experiences. But there are also students of English who come to this Board from across the world looking for resources. It is not just a closed-group of teachers or former teachers.

Is the jury still out on HIV/AIDS? Maybe the hysteria of the 'gay plague' days has died down but it is still a dangerous virus, certainly in parts of Africa. I would be convinced by a sound scientific argument that it is all a 'hoax' as Silverboy claims. We seem to live in an age where expert opinion is discarded in favor of fake news, (global warming and climate change is an example) and so those with the loudest and most persistent voices or Tweets are heard. According to Trump, climate change is also a hoax, invented by the Chinese to gain economic advantage.

Silverboy has shouted-down dissenting voices on this Forum for years. Using terms like 'feminazi' for one female poster, who was far too open about her identity, and who exposed his lack of knowledge of English language teaching. And after that it became very sinister, with someone on this Forum setting-up fake profiles on Facebook for her and contacting her European employers. To be fair to Silverboy, I don't think it was him.

I appreciate your comments: we can agree to disagree on some things.